The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

by Gary Chapman

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If you show love the way you'd most like to receive it, your partner may not register it at all. Chapman, a Baptist pastor drawing on his marriage counseling, says there are five distinct love languages, though a 2023 review found the theory lacks empirical support.

Core ideas
  • Five languages: Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch, and you usually have a primary one plus a secondary.
  • Read the signals: You find someone's language by watching how they show love and noticing what they complain about, and the book adds a quiz to help.
  • Love as a choice: The early rush of being in love is temporary, and lasting love is something you deliberately choose to keep giving.
Published1990
Pages232
ISBN9780802492401
ReadOct 2019

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